女 Martyr Mother vs. Forthright Feminist

These are the characters in this series. You can review them and quiz yourself at the bottom. To see them put together in an illustrated story, go to Lessons: Extension.

nèn

tender
女 + 束 + 攵
woman + bundle + taskmaster

At this tender age, it is better for a wedding taskmaster to provide the whole bundle. Too many decisions for you to make.

Mother: I’m grateful I attended cotillion, a class where a woman learns a bundle of feminine social skills from a taskmaster at a tender age. / Daughter: I’m afraid I appeared tender when my taskmaster bundled on new assignments, and I winced.

hūn

marriage
女 + 昏hūn
woman + dusk

Marriage joins a woman to another clan at dusk.

miào

wonderful
女 + 少shǎo
woman + few

Mother: I side with Darcy; there are few truly wonderful, accomplished women. / Daughter: Women are wonderful. Few would dispute that.

xián

dislike
女 + 兼jiān
woman + double

Mother: Of course I dislike a woman who leads a double life, cheating on her husband. / Daughter: I dislike women being treated with a double standard compared to men!

méi

matchmaker
女 + 某mǒu
woman + picnic basket

A matchmaker sets up a blind date and sends them with a picnic basket.

A matchmaking service offers a free picnic basket on the first date.

wěi

committee
禾 + 女
grain + woman

Mother: I joined a committee promoting the long-term storage of whole grains for a future time of need. / Daughter: I joined a committee that co-ops to bulk buy whole grains.

newborn
女 + 圭
woman + bricks

Carrying a newborn can feel to a woman like carrying around bricks.

slave [n.]
女nǚ + 又
woman + right hand

Picture a woman using her hands to slave away.

Picture a woman chained by her right hand on her way to slavery.

nanny
女 + 母mǔ
woman + mother

A nanny is a woman who helps the mother.

yāo

bewitching
女 + 夭yāo
woman + die young

Mother: Judy Garland was bewitched by a life in the spotlight and died young. / Daughter: If you are bewitched by the myth that a woman can do it all and all at once, you will die young.

wēi

might [n.]
一 + 女 + 戊
one + woman + cannon

The might of a cannon blows one woman away.

It takes one woman to show her might by standing up to the cannon.

yùn

iron [v.]
尉 + 火
martyr + fire

Mother: I’m a martyr who fires the iron every day to keep Dad looking good. / Daughter: There are so many options for a career woman to avoid being the martyr at home ironing: wrinkle-free fabrics, dry cleaners, housekeepers.

yīn

in-law
女 + 因yīn
woman + cause

Cause of marriage a woman becomes part of in-law relationships.

Women are the cause of marriage. They want the stability of one man to help care for them and their children during child-rearing (and if the in-laws help, too, great!)

yàn

banquet
宀 + 日 + 女
house + day/sun + woman

Mother: For the banquet tonight, it took me all day to prepare the house. / Daughter: For the banquet, I want to make sure we get plenty of sunlight in the house for the lifestyle photo shoot.

take a wife
取qǔ + 女
take + woman

Hopefully when a man takes a woman to wife, he also takes her somewhere nice.

jiē

all
比 + 白
compare + white

Picture housewives comparing their whites washed with All.

female, *woman

as a component: “女字旁”

xìng

surname
女 + 生shēng
woman + life/seed

A Chinese woman keeps her surname, but her seed takes her husband's.

wàng

absurd [adj.]
亡wáng + 女
deceased + woman

Mother: My fear is looking absurd in my coffin. / Daughter: A lot of ideas about women are absurd and should "decease".

fáng

hinder
女 + 方fāng
woman + direction/compass

Mother: Thinking about a woman can hinder a man's sense of direction. I'm going to steer him my way. / Daughter: Some women like me are hindered in their compass skills. Thank goodness for GPS.

zhuāng

put on makeup
丬qiáng + 女
turtle + woman

Picture a woman putting on makeup from a small turtle shell.

Some women take forever to put on makeup, as slow as a turtle.

jiē

welcome [v.]
扌 + 立 + 女
hand + stand up + woman

Mother: I was taught that when a woman comes in the room, to welcome her, men should reach out their hand and stand up. / Daughter: I love standing at the school gate to welcome my kid with a hug.

shuǎ

mess around
而 + 女
beard + woman

This woman doesn’t mess around with beards; she wants a man with a clean-shaven face.

Santa baby, hurry down the chimney tonight.

jiān

adultery
女 + 干gān
woman + clothesline

A woman commits adultery after flirting with the neighbor over the fence every time she is out hanging up her laundry.

干 can be a vulgar word for sex.

married woman
女 + 彐
woman + broom

Mother: As a married woman, I think of my broom as my scepter (or the way to escape the house at night). / Daughter: Everyone was so nervous to give anything practical (like a broom) to me as a married woman in fear that I would take it as sexist, but to be fair, we also both came into the marriage with our own brooms.

yīng

baby
贝 + 贝 + 女
2 shells + woman

Two 宝贝 bǎobèi babies is all a woman’s body can handle.

Many women are having babies with IVF. It’s expensive.

jealous of
女 + 户hù
woman + door

Mother: I’m so jealous of her front door. It’s the house’s 1920’s original. / Daughter: I’m so jealous of her front door. It’s the house’s 1960’s original.

mèi

flatter
女 + 眉méi
woman + eyebrows

Mother: He says the first time we met, I kept making eyebrows at him. I say, “Don’t flatter yourself.” / Daughter: You noticed my eyebrows? Wow, I’m flattered.

tuǒ

appropriate
爫 + 女
claw + woman

Mother: To achieve the perfect look, it would be totally appropriate to spend all afternoon underneath what appears to be a large claw coming down on my head. / Daughter: A claw clip is versatile enough for appropriate hairstyles for various occasions.

wife
十 + 肀 + 女
needle + rake + woman

Traditional qualifications for a good housewife: sewing and gardening.

A "ten-rake wife" brings so many skills and tools into the marriage.

wǎn

tactful
女 + 宛wǎn
woman + Cabela's

Mother: How do I tactfully remind my husband to not spend all day at Cabela’s? / Daughter: I tactfully avoided the stop at Cabela’s.

姿

looks [n.]
次cì + 女
next + woman

Mother: My mother always said men will move on to the next woman if you don’t keep up your looks. / Daughter: We’re moving on to the next era of female looks, where there is a celebration of many different looks.

Picture a man saying “Next!” as he passes over women who don’t meet his idea of good looks.

jià

marry
女 + 家jiā
woman + house

The groom says "Hey, woman, you are coming home to my house tonight." (Wedding Planner)

Mother: I learned in Chinese tradition, a woman is married to another house. / Daughter: We got married, then bought a house.

jiāo

attractive
女 + 乔qiáo
woman + pretend

Mother: It seems men find women more attractive when they pretend to not be as smart as they are. / Daughter: There is no need for a woman to pretend; she’s already attractive as she is.

sǎo

sweep
扌 + 彐
hand + broom

You use your hand to sweep with a broom.

covet
女 + 疾jí
woman + rapid

Mother: A woman coveting her neighbor’s husband rapidly leads to problems. / Daughter: I found myself coveting my co-worker’s rapid rise to management.

sport [v.]
女 + 喜xǐ
woman + joyful

One thing that brings a woman joy is to sport with her children.

hǎo

good
女 + 子
woman + child

A woman with her child is good.

Mother: Today I gave birth to a child. Now my life is good. / Daughter: This is good—having a child is a new growth opportunity for me.

yào

want [v.]
西 + 女
Wild West + woman

Picture a poster in the Wild West Wanted: Women”.

Western women want it all: family, career, etc.

be like
女nǚ + 口
woman + mouth

I need a group of women where we can talk about what it would be like if…

There is an ancient ritual where people walk out of a cave to symbolically represent rebirth, like coming out of a woman’s birth canal.

nǎi

milk [n.]
女 + 乃nǎi
woman + fist

A woman squeezes her fist and gets milk.

This is also a name for your paternal grandmother. Maybe she is the one who taught her granddaughters how to milk?

easy
日 + 勿
sun/day + knot

Sew by the window to make it easier to tie knots with the sunlight.

It is easy to waste your day getting tied in knots over things out of your control.

zhǐ

purpose
匕 + 日
spoon/person sitting + day

Mother: Feeding the baby (with a spoon) gives purpose to my days. Daughter: Even if you sit at a desk all day, find your purpose.

shǐ

commence
女 + 台
woman + stage

Picture a woman on a stage commencing a women's march.

hàn

sweat [n.]
氵 + 干gān
water + dry/clothesline

Mother: I sweat as I hang the clothes out to dry. / Daughter: I dry the wet sweat from my workout clothes on the clothesline before I wash them.

dān

assume
扌 + 旦dàn
hand + daybreak

Every morning you stretch your hands up (or use your hand to turn off the alarm) at daybreak and assume your responsibilities.

ān

peaceful
宀 + 女
house + woman

Mother: A house is peaceful when a woman is present. / Daughter: I am at peace when I am the only one in the house.

shí

reality
宀 + 头
house + head/bust

The reality is they keep his real head in the house as a memorial.

Mother: The reality is that he may be head of the household, but I am head of the house. / Daughter: I want realistic busts of my foremothers on the mantle of my house.

女 Martyr Mother vs. Forthright Feminist

Quiz

zhuāng

put on makeup

shuǎ

mess around

married woman

jiē

welcome [v.]

wàng

absurd [adj.]

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